Thursday, November 03, 2005

Emotional Blackmail.

Call us insensitive if you truly must, but --WTF!

To get something we have to give something. That's life. So, friend, what's the payoff for reditus nigri, or "blackmail." What guilty secret do we pay to protect ourselves for having known openly? Or, to put it bluntly, what did you do that you're afraid of the world knowing about? We are a lot of hard cases here who've done many evil things among us, no good lot here, and who cares? You want to know, so what? But what did you do? Why are you paying off Muslim blackmailers with jizya and appeasing them when they murder our fellows? What roten thing did you do to make exposure so horrible that you're willing to pay and play forever, even when it comes to losing your life? Why are you putting up with this Muslim crap? You're on your own there. We here, individuals hanging out in the middle of nowhere, we don't pay, and we don't care. Muslims don't like it? So what!
Mohammed is a child molester. He had sex with a child, an eight year old girl. Riot, then, you Muslim criminal scum. Big deal. Go die in a ditch. What's it to any of us? Let Hillary scream.

To many of our compatriots the Muslim world is the high-point of existence. Palestinians are the Most Important People in the World. We beg to differ. (Fill in the blanks as you will: Arse-H_les.)

Something's rotten in the state of Denmark, and the list goes on. We think that would be those who give in to emotional blackmail.


Threaten to make things difficult if you don't do what they want.

Constantly threaten to end the relationship if you don't give in.

Regularly ignore or discount your feelings and wants.

Tell you or imply that they will neglect, hurt themselves, or become depressed if you don't do what they want.

Shower you with approval when you give into them and take it away when you don't.

Use money as a weapon to get their own way.

Emotional blackmail is a powerful form of manipulation in which people close to us threaten (either directly or indirectly) to punish us if we don't do what they want. At the heart of any kind of blackmail is one basic threat, which can be expressed in many different ways: If you don't behave the way I want you to, you will suffer. A criminal blackmailer might threaten to use knowledge about a person's past to ruin her reputation, or ask to be paid off in cash to hide a secret. Emotional blackmail hits closer to home. Emotional blackmailers know how much we value our relationship with them. They know our vulnerabilities. Often they know our deepest secret. And no matter how much they care about us, when they fear they won't get their way, they use this intimate knowledge to shape the threats that give them the payoff they want: our compliance. Knowing that we want love or approval, our blackmailers threaten to withhold it or take it away altogether, or make us feel we must earn it. For example, if you pride yourself being generous and caring, the blackmailer might label you selfish or inconsiderate if you don't accede to his wishes. If you value money and security, the blackmailer might attach conditions to providing them or threaten to take them away. And if you believe the blackmailer, you could fall into a pattern of letting him control your decisions and behavior.
If a middle aged lady who writes self-help books for neurotic middleclass housewives can figure it out, what's wrong with the intelligent people in the Western world? We won't even bothering asking about the politicians we have. But what about you? Are you giving in to this?

OK, so we're not sensitive-new-age-guys, SNAGs. What's it to you, bud.


John Sobieski said...

I had not considered the political correctness and multiculturalism plagueing the West as directly being emotional blackmail, but at its core, it is. They abuse our decency, our trust, and we forgive. They demand and demand, and we acquiesce. It's a frigging disease.

Hey Dag, check out my post today on gaining entre with your congressman.


supermonkeybee said...

Why don't you open your heart and mind ?
And why not try to meet a couple of guys of Muslim conviction and hear them out in a friendly way ?
Why not show by example how to make a better world ?
Why be the victim of your fear ?
Why not cure by friendship ?
Your world doesn't gain by preaching hate ?
Have you ever tried sharing your love for the world ?

We were born to unite with our fellow men,
and to join in community with the human race.

dag said...

Fathers must worry desperately sometimes about their daughters.